A respectful person (I am keeping this person anonymous) who disagreed with me politely sent a note to me, and I felt that my reply may help clarify my specific view point on the entire mess. Here it is for anyone that wishes to read:
"And why would I report something that is presented in a REASONABLE manner? If she addressed me in this same way as you just did, without malice or name-calling, we wouldn't be in this mess. Actually I would post this [the person's note] as a fine example of HOW to approach me since I'm tolerant when I'm properly respected.
Anyway though, I have tried to deal with this privately in this past, but FlareScaple decided to bring it out in the open, and as far as I am concerned, it is now fair game of me to come out and criticize her harshly since she has been doing that to me. So I don't think I could have dealt with this any better without simply acquiescing to her outlandish behavior which is never okay in my book.
I have stated numerous times that I only consider calling people by what they prefer to be called by IF AND ONLY IF they are a person that I respect already and I find the accommodation to be reasonable, e.g. not too confusing when I have to discuss a person in another conversation. If a person is going to post gore and lies against me simply because I "misgender" them, then what is my reasoning for showing any respect back or apologizing? Does using a "she" instead of "he" or "voi" equate to that sort of sadistic glee in your eyes? Please tell me what dA rule I am breaking that she isn't. By what rule am I bound to abide to a request of using "sir" or "madam" to someone who continues to disrespect me with more vile names and swears? You give me a good answer to that and I might change my mind because THAT is the key problem that I am having with her.
As for "otherkin", "transphobia," and pronouns in general, I've said before that I am friends with people of a variety of sexualities. However, I personally believe anyone that believes that they currently are an animal is being foolish and will only invite future trouble for them, and I will say so directly to them as my way of expressing concern. Any friend is allowed to disagree with me and I will drop the subject. I did the same thing with FlareScaple and I had assumed that she forgave me and accepted that I'm allowed to have a different opinion. She clearly did not.
I have seen the "reincarnation" belief in religions such as Buddhism and although I might still say it is odd, I would not go out of my way to belittle you. Everyone has beliefs that I may or may not agree with and I am alright and tolerant about those beliefs as long as they do not bring harm upon someone else. I know that certain extreme beliefs can be harmful to people in some ways, however, so when I DO criticize, it is merely because I share concern and believe that contesting an opinion is always a fair thing in a free society.
I have reason to believe that she is lying or exaggerating about some of her mental illnesses as she has been with other things. People with actual anxiety attacks (and I have a friend that does) do not act in the ways that she claims that she does, and her schizophrenia behaviors do not add up either although I'm not a mental professional. I do have an autistic brother however so I'm not wholly ignorant of such things.
Nevertheless, even if she truly believes in these characters (which she did NOT in the first few years that I knew her), that does not justify forcing her friends into accepting them. I noticed that she tends to list her mental illnesses as the first and sole things on her bios often, wearing them almost as if they're trophies or that they entitle her to certain privileges. The former friends that she has attacked and myself have a variety of problems, myself having been diagnosed with depression and anxiety, and yet we have handled them significantly more maturely than she has been of late. Her problems do not EXCUSE any of her abhorrent behavior and I'm going to see to it that she is punished for spreading lies and trying to hurt people emotionally, even if all that I can do is expose some of her behavior in two screenshots.
The two screenshots are all that I have done so far. Is that equivalent to her constant threats of suicide or sending me texts in the past claiming that I would be happy to see her go kill herself? Does that not render more criticism on her part that she made Tumblr posts hoping that I would go hang/strangle myself?
Am I NOT allowed to defend myself or not? That's all I want to know."
This note is to a separate person and sums it all up:
"If you really care about her, talk to her about what she has done and tell her to get off the computer. She obviously can't handle it. She has no respect left for other human beings' lives all because some people do not like to be told to use one pronoun over another. Does that sound like a normal person to you? Does that justify everything that she has done so far?"